Often my kid seems happy enough. She plays well on her own and with others. She enjoys coloring, writing, reading, playing dressup, and dolls. There are times when she just becomes stubborn and other times when she enters a smoldering, angry, furious rage.

I look into her eyes at these times and I usually have no idea what has triggered her rage. She uses grunts instead of words. She will throw things in her room. She'll break things. She'll kick and hit.

I wonder to myself, "What on earth happened to make you this angry? When did it happen? Do you have any idea of why you feel this way?" Unfortunately I don't have specific answers. My kid can't answer them. I think she just finds herself winding into a mood and can't regulate herself after she reaches a certain level of furor.

At these moments it is nearly impossible to talk her down. She's just generally and seriously miffed.

Any thoughts out there on how to help a kid wind down the moment you see this cycle?