Hello; I'm AuntDebbie

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AuntDebbie74112
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I have just adopted a 7 year old boy on Sept 15th 2008 and I am the Legal Guardian of his 10 year old sister. I have had the girl for almost 5 years and the boy for almost 4 years. The boy has R.A.D., P.T.S.D., A.D.H.D. and Self Harm. The girl is M.R. and A.D.D. Both are on meds of course. Abilify and VyVanse to be exact. We have been going to therapy once a week for 5 years now and they both see the physc. once a month. But in spite of all this the boy seems to be getting worse instead of better especially since the adoption. Therapist says he is just testing me to see if I am going to get rid of him like his parents did. (Parents gave up parental rights to all 8 children after the battle.) Other 6 kids are in other foster homes and or have been adopted out as well. The 10 year old girl is the oldest child. (all 8 children are special needs to a point.) I have contact with 7 out of 8 kids. I need advice on how the handle this situation after the adoption. It's like I am starting all over with him.

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MatthewS
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Joined: 10/29/2008
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Welcome AuntDebbie!

Welcome to the community.

I'm sorry that you're having a hard time - parents of Children of Trauma always do. Sometimes there up times, sometimes not so up. You can post to the Behaviour Forum for specific advice on your situation. I think you'll get more attention there.

I think one of the things your kiddo is feeling is a sense of final loss, on a subconscious, of the bio-parents. You will likely have anniversary setbacks each year right around the time you finalised. Be patient and consistent. These steps back will reverse and you'll have good times again.